Do Demisexuals Experiment?
DEMIsexuals (DS), it is said, must form an emotional bond with another person in order to feel sexually attracted, to be aroused. Well, everyone does this, you all chorus. Yes, but. I've always imagined that the required 'emotional bond' is a positive one. But, more generally, there must be sufficient positive-emotion bonds, and no negative-emotion-inducing interactions. Only then do sexual feelings arise. Now, we do all have these feelings, too - but here I want to come to what I see as the downside for the DS. I believe that allosexuals (here, non-demisexuals) feel these emotional pushes and pulls concurrently. They feels the positives and the negatives and the purely sexual, together, at the same time, independently. What the DS feels is just one thing - am I attracted or not? The sexual category cannot exist on its own. (DS do not fall for screen idols, for instance.) And also, I believe, there is a third category, the 'unknown' emotional element - ie there are